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A Message from Heather and John
If we had this guide when our sister was abducted, I’m not sure that we would have been able to read it right away. But, as the journey continued and we faced events that we could have never imagined, I think it would have been comforting to read the words from other siblings who have had to cope with such a loss. We don’t think that there are any answers, just words that may relieve your anxieties, fears, and fury. We would have used this guide to get some idea of how to handle certain situations and perhaps avoid others. When our sister Molly was abducted and murdered, we felt disbelief that such things could happen and had happened. If we had a guide like this, we may not have felt so alone and freakish.
We hope that this guide helps reassure you that the feelings you are undergoing have been felt by all of us at one time or another. We would like you to keep this guide and open it when the time feels right. There may be some parts that you read now and some parts that you save for later.
Today, we continue to wonder what happened to our sister on June 27, 2000. It has been almost 7 years, but we still meet with police every 3 months or so. Our hearts rise and fall with new information regarding Molly’s murderer.
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Life expects you to keep going, though, and we have. John is a successful builder and just completed refinishing his first house. He is surrounded by supportive friends who have stayed by his side, cheering him, distracting him, and helping him remember that life goes on. An athlete in high school and college, John continues his athletic regimen on a daily basis and makes it an important part of his life.
Heather completed her master’s degree in special education and is in her sixth year teaching fifth and sixth grade students. She has a beautiful and amazing 7 year-old daughter, and a family that, although fractured, is surviving together. She works with her parents for the Molly Bish Foundation, educating the community about the risks of abduction. Every week, the entire family gets together for dinner on what they call "fragile Fridays" where they spend time together despite their busy schedules.
We are lucky to be able to offer our words, thoughts, and feelings about the most devastating experience in our lives in the hope that they will envelope you and sustain you.
Read the entire guide What About Me, Coping with the abduction of a brother or sister
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